You are here to make one another known and in so doing to know oneness. D:Day15.15
It is said that when you awaken to find the ground covered in dew, it means that a fair day is ahead. This has certainly been true today. I’m sitting in the cabin with the windows thrown open, the temperature moderate, the sun bright, and the breeze invigorating. I’ve thought several times, as the wind moves near branches about, that someone is approaching. Yet I’m not sure if it is actually because of the wind that I keep glancing up. I get few visitors, and seldom look out with the feeling that, at any minute, a friend might come walking down the path. I think it’s because of the thought of companionship that’s entered my mind today.
I copied a snippet from a friend’s email onto the top of my writing page this morning because it inspired me. It was from a Course of Love reader with whom I’ve been sharing emails for many years. The snip was about feeling connected. We’ve never met yet we both feel that we know each other deeply.
In the new edition of A Course of Love, there is a Foreword written by Glenn Hovemann as editor of this combined volume. In it he mentions my “abundant private correspondence.” I was so delighted by that. I hadn’t asked him to speak of it, highlighted it in any of our conversations, or expected to see it there. That he noticed my attention to correspondence and thought to include it gave value to this generally under-appreciated way of communicating. The private way. The one-to-one way. A way that, even if it seldom includes a stamp and an envelope these days, is still a personal exchange between two people. I believe I was as thrilled as I was because this correspondence has been invaluable to me. What I was glorying in this morning, relishing to the max, was not the feeling of being a companion but of being companioned. And then tears came to my eyes over the sweet recognition of how mutual companionship is. How positively and perfectly mutual. How true to what this Course is.
For some reason it got me considering what I only half-jokingly call the “job description” that Jesus gave me after A Course of Love was complete. I’d basically asked him, “Now what?” and he said, “Be a companion to those willing to leave hell behind.” Before, when I’d considered this “job description” I was always getting hung up on the word hell. I’d trade it in most often for the word ego. Sometimes for the word illusion. Be a companion to those willing to let go the ego and the illusion and to live as a true self in a true reality. Heaven right there.
As it happened, after tears, I had to wonder. Could it be that when we are ready to be companions to one another: to neither lead nor follow; to neither teach nor learn; to be together in the openhearted and intimate way that the word “companion” suggests . . . that this is when hell is left behind?—when everything is mutual and we get tears in our eyes over it?
In its original meaning, the word “companion” has to do with “one who eats of the same bread.” It is an accompanying. It is about fellowship. The lovely Quaker Thomas Kelly, writing about fellowship, spoke of “men and women whom we now know to the depths . . . now we know them, as it were, from within. For we discern that their lives are already down within that Center which has found us.” The word companionship is not used one single time in A Course of Love, and yet I find the idea of it in many places, one of my favorites being, [I]n order to be your Self, you have to share your Self, C:31.14 and another is in dialogue:
When you fully realize that sharing is necessary you will have entered the dialogue. When you have fully surrendered to the fact that you can’t come to know on your own you will have entered the dialogue. When you fully accept that the voice of the one can be heard in the voice of the many you will have entered the dialogue. When you fully realize that you are in-formed by everything and everyone in creation, you will have entered the dialogue. D:Day15.1
And so, tomorrow morning, as the official publication date for A Course of Love: Combined Volume comes and goes, it is companionship and dialogue that I will be grateful for, and wish for you.
And there is an element, too, of engagement. Almost like activation. I know when I have certain exchanges I feel as if a part of my soul or psyche that needed to be stimulated, in that particular way, has been stimulated. I feel gifted, grateful, as if I have accepted something by mutual agreement and become eager at the same time for more…
Mari
Mari,
Since whenever it was that you first shared this notion of companionship with me, it has often been in my thoughts, and in reading this I am struck by its universal power if you will. Companionship implies equality and respect, but also suggest somehow a creative spaciousness. Companionship is where worlds mingle for a while, and are both enriched, with neither being usurped, manipulated or instructed. There is an absence of ‘should’ in companionship, an absence of right or wrong, and of judgment. And also the implication of intimacy and vulnerability. Companions are not acquaintances, mere passers-by. Thinking of bigger picture applications, I thought, what if nations viewed themselves as companions, as cultural ensembles with unique footholds in a landscape of giving and receiving, rather than as entities with a codified duty to act out of perceived self-interest?
Michael
Yes, dear Jacques, this is the truth of it, isn’t it?
I was responding, as I wrote this, to the wonder it is that companionship can develop, even without meeting in person, that intimacy can develop even in such long-distance and non-physical relationship. It’s similar to how we can be “taken in” . . . embraced by works like this Course of Love . . . as you know so well.
Thank you for allowing this Course into your heart and for the dedication I know you are putting into your work of translation.
Love, Mari
Yes, to me a companion is much more than an associate. It is an example of a relation in union, a wholehearted relation, a welcoming of intimacy. Delicious.
Is there anything else worth developing and sustaining?