My Greatest Experience – Ever
By Miguel Carvalho
It was the greatest experience of my life, what happened to me on August 14th, as I was exploring A Course of Love. And what is more, it was not a one-time occurrence, a fluke, a misinterpretation, or a figment of my imagination. My experience is totally reproducible any time I choose—though not with the attending fireworks as with the first time.
It was a Monday. I joined three friends on a prescheduled conference call to share ACOL. We would be reading Day 14, “Healing,” of the Forty Days and Forty Nights. I was happy that my friends were also wanting to read it. I needed help understanding and really experiencing what it was saying about feelings. I knew, more than I can express in words, that I needed to GET IT.
I was still recovering from an emergency appendectomy, which was quite complicated. I had been totally joyless for several weeks following my surgery. Since coming home from the hospital I was feeling very lonely (uncharacteristic for me), weak and fragile, physically, mentally, and emotionally. I also had continuous post-surgery pain in my abdomen. At the same time, something not totally unrelated had been brewing in my mind — the white supremacist rally and counter protests in Charlottesville, Virginia. I was seeing the intense emotions of hatred, violence, and anger as I watched TV and was aware of my own emotions of hate, anger, and a desire to do violence towards these people in Charlottesville. This was my state when we started reading ACOL together.
When it was my turn to read paragraph 14.4, it seemed that I was simultaneously trying to apply what I was reading to the disturbing pictures and feelings that I had been dealing with.
And then it happened. It happened like an explosion in my mind or in my being, in a FLASH. In an instant, the mob that had taken residence in my mind, all the hate-filled emotions of fear that were mine and those of my brothers and sisters in Charlottesville, just disappeared in an instant from my mind. Suddenly all those brothers and sisters appeared utterly innocent and lovable.
Great joy flooded into me. Of course my three friends noticed and remarked on the sudden change in my mood and voice. I was beyond elation and excitement. I had just made a HUGE DISCOVERY.
A picture flashed into my mind of Jesus on the cross saying, “Father forgive them for they know not what they do.” And I imagined Jesus looking on the crowd below with total compassion and brotherhood and love—just as I was feeling. Perhaps what I had just experienced was the same as Jesus “taking away the sins of the world.” I felt that that is exactly what we are asked to do in the paragraph I had just read—to take away all the harm that the projections of our brothers and sisters could cause to the world, by making their feelings our own and holding them within the spacious Self. What power!
Many thoughts flashed through my mind. “What potential for humanity or humans who want to finally transform the world! Is this what is really meant by being saviors of the world? What would happen if more and more of us dedicated ourselves to practice what this lesson on Healing teaches?”
What had just happened was an especially big deal for me because since my introduction to A Course in Miracles in 1987, I lamented that I could never really feel love for anyone, including my only child. Wanting to be accurate and honest, I used to say, “I really want to love you.” After years of trying to apply and live the teachings of ACIM, the best I was able to do was to go through the motions of loving as I understood it, with a sincere desire to love. All these years of trying to apply and live the teachings of ACIM, in the face of horrible events—atrocities, man’s inhumanity to man and nature—all these things that affected me since childhood very strongly. I experienced anger and rage and pain and sadness and hopelessness and despair, and yet all I ever was able to respond with was to go through some motions in my mind, such as, “Bless them,” or “They are all my innocent brothers and sisters, etc.,” or even “It’s not real after all, although horrible”— seemed in hindsight like empty words.
Countless people over the years have said that they felt loved by me, but their telling me so didn’t do anything for me, since I did not feel it. I was a seeker after that most precious gift: to be able to love like Jesus—and now I had just experienced it, full blast, for the first time, without any doubt. That was bigger than anything that had happened to me in my life, I thought. It is as if love was finally consummated. There was a feeling.
Not only that, but all my constant post- surgery abdominal pain suddenly vanished.
Day 14, “Healing,” was a revelation for me. And the key is to feel into and accept the feelings of others, fearlessly and as my own, and to “hold” those feelings within the spacious Self. In doing so I experienced what I have wanted to experience for so long—to feel, to really FEEL the Truth, undeniably and totally experienced. I and all my brothers and sisters really ARE utterly innocent and lovable.
The paragraph that catapulted me into this magnificent experience? Here it is:
It is by holding all feelings of others within the spacious Self, by not forgetting that the one and the many are the same, by willfully remembering that the feelings of the many can be “held” and not projected into the world as sickness, violence, and so on, that acceptance occurs. It is in accepting all feelings as the feelings of the many that the feelings of “others” are accepted as one’s own and held within the spaciousness of the One Self, the whole Self. D:Day14.4
Miguel Carvalho lives in Charlotte, North Carolina. He has been trying to live the Course in Miracles since 1987 and now A Course of Love for about 2 years. And grateful beyond words for ACOL.
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The Great Whispering
By Susan Greenwood
There is a great whispering
It stirs the trees and rustles the leaves
It rides the waves then laps gently on the shore
All creatures hear the whispering
It talks of the relationship between all things
Speaks of the cycles of life and death
The knowing that, in this moment, all is well.
Sometimes, when the mental static of life’s business is stilled
And I can listen to nature around me
I, too, can hear the whispering.
My heart lifts with joyful remembering
And the final piece of the puzzle fits perfectly.
Susan Greenwood grew up in England, and has lived and worked in Naples, Florida, for the past 15 years. Reading and writing are life-long pleasures. For the past few years she has also enjoyed writing brief group meditations to share with friends.
I am also grateful beyond words for “your” words. To be able to feel! And truly what a wonder to have been able to recognize before that you could “not” feel. To come to this moment of realizing the difference, to appreciate fully the miracle of feeling! Our feelings, Jesus says, are our creations, and I can only imagine the wonders you will now create, your creation of “the new.”
I also very much liked this observation:
A picture flashed into my mind of Jesus on the cross saying, “Father forgive them for they know not what they do.” And I imagined Jesus looking on the crowd below with total compassion and brotherhood and love—just as I was feeling. Perhaps what I had just experienced was the same as Jesus “taking away the sins of the world.” I felt that that is exactly what we are asked to do.
Much love to you (can you feel it?) ~ Mari
Miguel, thank you so much. Being a “head” person I’ve struggled with feelings all my life. I went back to Day 14 and had “feelings!” scribbled all over! Trappist Monk Thomas Merton said the longest spiritual journey known is the 18 inches from your head to your heart. It’s great and reassuring to hear a personal story from one who has completed the journey! I’ve got several inches to go but with ACOL as a guide book (and Christ as the Guide!) I’m confident I (and anyone else who has the same intent) will make it. Just need to overlook all those “CAUTION” and “STOP” signs the ego likes to throw in the way.
Thank you Miquel for sharing your most profound experience! This is what it is all about….. Allowing ourselves to be open and let the contact be made. This is the shift that takes us from our head to our hearts. To me this shows what happens when I practice “Stop Thinking and Start Feeling”.
Your words, Miguel, are exactly what I needed to hear at this very moment. Preparing to face a client who has been many times sequally and physically abused throughout her childhood, I am struggling with my own dilemma of “how could they do something so profoundly evil to their own child, and how on earth am I going to tell her that God is good and the world is safe and love heals, when she has these memories in her mind.”
I have nothing but to pray that the right words will come, as I am sure into the words of ACOL that there can be no exception and everybody is a loving child of god, but I find it really hard to include the perpetrators of such deeds into the lovely picture of ACOL loving universe.
Thank you for your sharing,
Whenever I am in a difficult situation, as the one you described with your client, the absolute best thing I can do (and do) is to not think. I stop thinking and become more receptive letting my Self speak through my self.
The path has already been laid and now well traveled. There is no stopping to connect with Source for Source lives inside of me as Source lives inside of you.
It may be helpful to intentionally connect your Higher Self with your client’s Higher Self before your client even enters your office. Then at the proper time, allow your Higher Self to speak through your mouth without being concerned with the words you are saying to your client.
When you feel brave enough you could connect with the perpetrators Higher Self, each one singly. You don’t have to know exactly who they are. Just call them forth. Call forth their Higher Aspect. There is no reason to deal with the small ego self. Simply call them forth and see them surrounded by the White Light of Creator. That is it. You don’t have to have any other thoughts. Don’t try to forgive them or love them or anything. Simply see them in The Light. Its worth a shot. No one will know what you are doing but you. At least on the surface.
I see you enfolded in the soft blue light of Peace.
What a gift! And with giving and receiving as one. I thank you.
Hi Miguel … Jesus strongly recommends in the 40 days that we ‘join in dialogue’ about our shared experiences and transformation. I have not been sure about how to do this until now. Many thanks for sharing your inspiring story. It helps me greatly also for very similar reasons associated with past conflicts between my ‘maleness’ and my denied feelings, especially in relation to projecting judgement onto others.
I can now see and feel unconditional acceptance more clearly, with gratitude and love. Paul
Thank you, Miguel.
A beautiful and profound insight and revelation.
A Holy Instant that will last forever.
Is your group open to adding someone new, Miguel? I’ve been thinking of joining a group. And I’m particular about opening myself to people who receive me tenderly. I would also want to honor each person as sacred ground, of course. I can be reached at elliottrobertson at hotmail dot com or through private message on Facebook.
That is a very welcome confirmation of a thought that came up in me while in meditation. By taking on the human experience all of us have given our Life for the souls of the humans we experience being in this world, to have our Life and Joy back again while appearing in this world only when also the humans souls would have it. We planned and did this as the spirits that we are as extensions of and in oneness with God.
Compared to our original infinitely great perfect happiness, experiencing being but a human is like letting yourself be crucified. While becoming aware of and again enjoying Who one really is has been called the resurrection and ascension.
Therefore each and everyone of us has the full Divine right to remember, regardless what the experience is, as it is allowing God in us to remember it:
“Also this was I beforehand willing to experience our of courageous pure Charity for this soul and that of my neighbors.”
Thank you, Miguel, for sharing this experience so eloquently with its relevant context! It touched me deeply. This correlates with the practice of Ho’opono’pono and activities of the Heart Diamond. How wonderful!
I would like to converse with Miguel. I believe I also had a revelation of this and would like to join in one mindedness and share some other insights.