The Secret is Feeling
By Karči Cole Kňazovický
Feeling is the secret to both Courses, ACIM and ACOL. Feeling is the secret to forgiveness. Feeling is the missing link to Everything—to God, union, dialogue, and to the peace that passes understanding.
This unseen yet felt part of us is misunderstood, avoided, controlled, manipulated, conditioned away, maligned, and denied. Yet it is the missing link to healing the over-stimulated spiritual mind—the mind that, as ACIM says, plays the game of “seek but do not find.” (And if found, would still not use what it has found due to this misalignment with feelings.)
You may say, “I feel! Of course I do!” But do you really? Or are you actually imagining feelings through the mind? Obstructed receptivity to feeling is one of the major barriers to love’s presence.
In Luc Besson’s movie “Fifth Element,” the four classic elements – earth, air, fire and water — were just carved stones that needed to be ignited. What ignited them was an expression of their quality. The mind names feelings, but any feeling that has been given a name is very likely a mind-construct, tucked away in files of the ego. Who names feelings? Who condemns the feeling? Ego-mind.
I would say that ACIM and ACOL have four “elements” — thoughts, feelings, and heart, which together manifest as form.
As in the movie, these four “elements” need ignition for real transformation to happen. ACIM trained us to dislodge the labels and set the mind free. ACIM is especially helpful to ignite the mind. Not just that, ACIM trained us to be present—a now-moment presence essential for ignition. But just to over-amp the mind with light is not enough. More light is not necessarily better. This happened to me at the beginning. I had so much light I was virtually blinded by it and my spiritual ego was enlightened (temporarily, thank God).
ACOL is especially helpful to ignite the heart through its training to be in unconditional acceptance of feelings. Not to get lost in unevolved feelings, the emotions of the karma drama, but the true feelings of the heart. The feeling “body” ignites and powers the heart, which can then generate true feelings, feelings that are not labeled or controlled. And all this together illuminates the whole. This is why there is so much emphasis on feelings in ACOL.
Back to the movie. Even with the four elements ignited, the evil planet is still on its way to destroy life on earth. What stops it? A Supreme Being—in the movie, a woman. She is useless, however, unless she is—what?—truly loved.
How do we know we are truly loved? Remember when someone told you they love you but you just could not feel it? Or when they said “I love you” and melted you completely? What was the difference? Feeling. Feeling is that in which dialogue can begin—not just a chat, but true Dialogue. True communication happens when all four elements are ignited (enlightened) and deep intent to love is also present. Even a Supreme Being has to be loved to ignite the power surge that stops the evil planet from annihilating life on the earth. That’s one crazy movie with a profound message (hidden amongst a blizzard of bullets).
Since we were children we got the message to keep feelings hidden, unexpressed, until feelings shrunk into unknown entities. They are hidden but not gone, and they eventually bring about sickness in the body, or otherwise haunt us in dreams and dark nights of the soul, or just make us feel shy and ashamed when they emerge in tears and embarrassment. (Now we can stay home and send out posts via social media that never make us too visible to others.) Unpleasant feelings are kept safely at bay.
How often people apologize for tears, yet they are more real than ever! These are all signs that feelings are not OK, not loved, unacceptable to the predominant “spiritual” mind, the seat of power and control. Ego-mind without feeling causes disease. Align mind with true feelings and disease is no more. This is the true power of forgiveness.
So let’s address true forgiveness and watch it work. If a situation that needs forgiveness shows up, it’s already too late. It has already demonstrated the unforgiving mind in action. To a truly healed mind, even the idea of forgiving by overlooking untruth is not necessary because nothing appears to need to be forgiven. All forgiveness is self-forgiveness and is known by its results. Sound far-fetched? Here is the missing link and why feeling is the secret.
When any situation confronts you, addressing the situation and then forgiving it is not enough because that which called it in stays unchanged. Every situation is only there because you hold something that draws it to you. If you simply use some line of thinking to help you “forgive,” you play a mind game on yourself. Soon a similar scenario with new actors arises. The same hidden, unloved feeling magnetizes it to you.
It is here that forgiveness has not been understood. The hard part is to accept the feelings that any situation triggers. Feelings are slower than the thoughts. The mind rushes in to tell you what to think about the feeling. It may tell you that “feelings are not real.” This is the ego-mind’s effort to save itself. It’s a miracle when one can even determine what the true feeling is—THAT is a miracle, because feelings don’t talk. They feel! And the mind is determined not to give credence to true feelings. But as ACOL says, there is “no escape” from that which has been ejected, rejected, repressed, suppressed. They must be recognized and integrated into the Self.
Here is the hard part: When a true feeling is felt, you have to see what is your attitude toward this NOW-felt feeling. Your attitude will not be comfortable. Yet it is in this place where true forgiveness must take place, and where acceptance plays its major role.
The ego-mind is in unconditional non-acceptance of true feelings. You have to find acceptance even for non-acceptance! When ego-mind doesn’t accept feelings, it puts a subtle and at times not-so-subtle pressure to hold feelings down until they become unseen. Then the mind makes false feelings to replace the truth of who we are with its substitutes. When asked what you feel, your ego-mind will say, very quickly, “angry” or “sad” or “scared.” Yet your true feelings stay covered over, unexpressed, and cannot shift to the pure joy that is your true nature.
How do you heal this non-acceptance of true feelings? Remember, unconditional non-acceptance will accept NO true feelings. Just telling yourself “I accept” doesn’t work. It takes a while to truly accept your own non-acceptance but it’s doable if one can stay honest and look at the depth of your non-acceptance.
Caution! The spiritual ego will say “of course I accept.” It doesn’t. At some point, though, when the impossible situation is clearly acknowledged, your own true compassion for yourself sets in. This is the way to true healing because it is true acceptance. This undoes the fortress, the thorny crown, of non-acceptance. Non-acceptance will be no more. Once you genuinely accept—accept even your mind that had been determined to be non-accepting—loving yourself even for the mind’s innocent blindness, this ego-disease will slowly give way to a presence of heart.
Then your mind shifts to genuine acceptance and eventually to unconditional acceptance of feelings. Only then will feelings receive the love they deserve. Only then will they gain life and begin to flow upwards. Without this movement comes aging, sickness, seriousness, loss of playfulness, spiritual righteousness, and in many cases constant regurgitating of the spiritual musings and texts that don’t really make sense unless feeling gives them movement and the release that comes from revelation. Allowance of this movement IS the resurrection. The barriers to love’s presence have been dropped. Giving and receiving have become one for you. You need do nothing, for any “doing” will stop the flow. Mary is resurrected along with Jesus.
When feelings are free they no longer draw to yourself situations needing forgiveness because the magnetic flow can only draw to it what is like unto itself, which is Love, the only Reality. True self-forgiveness is complete. There is nothing to forgive. Feelings have become equal—and essential—partners in Creation.
This flow IS always (and in all ways) New. New in constant freshness and undefinable grandeur. And now new again. And just now new again. Forever new. Feel it? Know it in every part of your being and even as you don’t recognize it because it’s being born again right now, and now. Giving and Receiving have become One.
Karči (Cole) Kňazovický is a classical guitar teacher, composer, and performer, a couples therapist, and a professional facilitator of men’s groups and mixed gender polarity work with a focus on masculinity. Cole extensively explored deep feelings through channeled material called Right Use of Will and is also a long-term teacher of ACIM focused particularly on the Workbook as a means of feeling application. Cole says: “At first I read ACOL like a book, but at some point the book came alive in my feelings. How so? I don’t know. It just did. It began to translate into feelings and the feeling began to correspond. The inner Dialogue began.” Cole’s ten year-old son, Juni, lives with him in a community near Byron Bay, Australia.
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Go In Peace
By Carol Daigneault
Go in Peace
See and feel the Peace
Realize, believe, know
Deep in your being
That you are an important part
Of the solution
Of Peace on Earth
Goodwill to all
Take this precious jewel of knowing
And embrace it
And in this gentle knowing
You become it
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Within your deepest being
That this is the way
You make a promise
You focus this intention
For yourself, your children,
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As we unite to
Hold the Power of Peace
Carol Daigneault is a seeker and spiritual rebel who has explored personal growth and empowerment for over three decades. A certified Feng Shui practitioner, she combines her knowledge of ancient and modern wisdom with her intuitive skills which helped to birth her book, I Hold the Power of Peace.
Thank you Cole. I’m on my fourth time through ACOL. It is having a profound resonance with my life. The biggest aha for me was moving into acceptance of my feelings. I thought acceptance of the outside world was what I needed but the switch to accepting and being with my feelings has made a tremendous difference in how much light and love I let flow though me.
Right on Ellen. That was the trap I fell into for many years trying to forgive the imagery rather than allowing true feelings to emerge about these imageries (brothers, sisters and situations) and see my loveless attitudes towards those feelings.
But deepest revelation was to see my nonacceptance I held against this lovelessness and the real Art was to find real acceptance for it. That was the shadow. All feelings are fine. It’s the resistance against them that is the pain we think we feel and experience. Also most judgements held against feelings takes a bit of noticing until we get to a place where new feelings begin to emerge. The ones we can’t name.
Eventually there is only One feeling constantly flowing. Unity is feeling. Where feeling and the mind are balancing in the Heart
Nice to hear. Thank you for sharing.
This is so powerful. I want to share also that I’m rereading The Unteathered
Soul by Michael Singer. On pg 97. ‘At some point in the journey it all becomes heart, not mind. You will see that the mind follows the heart…’. It amazes me that this message is there in some many ways. The Divine wants us to know this, to remember this. It’s profound.
Great article! I feel (..!..) though it seems there is more to discover about “feelings”. Many other words in ACOL have multiple meanings.
I am attracted to the idea of feelings being the language of the(our) soul: the bridge/dialogue between the Self and Me, via the Soul ( or individuated Self).
The interpretation of feelings triggers the hormonal system of the body…(also known as “emotions”). This can be linked to The Art of Thought….The very acknowledgement of our feelings alerts us to the presence of Self (Love).
Bless you and all!
I feel it is an absolute necessity to deepen and open to the feeling realm which I find is way below emotionality and also way below the Heart.
I heard Mari speaking of a new book in the making called “The way of Mary”. My sense is that this is going to give an input that is from mother Mary’s depth of feminine expression that is close to unknown here on earth. But feeling it is going to sort this out. Starting to take time with what is really being felt is a good hint. Not by going into the feelings but stepping back and let the feeling let us know what it’s message is. Vision understands this message perfectly. (Mind doesn’t.)
Even for us men to begin to feel the softness and subtle quality of this Will that is the Mother of Everything would help us to understand this yin-like realm. It’s exquisite. Feels like home. But it’s sure not for everyone. :-))
Thank you, Cole (and possibly the universe) for this very timely writing.
A very heartfelt article Cole,
Wonderful article, Cole! I will be sharing this with friends, and referring to it often myself!
Thanks Lillian. Next time I come up and see you and Christopher again.
Wow….words really fail me. All I can say is….thank you thank you thank you. WOW.
Wow— that says it all: ‘you read the ACOL like ACIM and then at some point, the book became alive.”
Me too. I actually slept in my guest room and left ACOL on audible all through the night. I was so deeply opened up in my heart and I wasn’t going to waste anything….day or night! I slept in another room just to get enough of a distraction and give my attention to something out-of-the-ordinary that was wanting to come to me and open my heart. It activated a new me, a wholehearted person that wasn’t afraid of Love that was wooing my heart open to love. The real inner dialogue was genuine and so was the relationship it activated in me. Nothing like it for the heart! The head/heart relationship has been out of balance for me and after years with ACIM — I was ready for a heart activation that aligned the mind as oneness brought them to peace.
So very true. Spirit inspires but feelings respond to the inspiration and give it manifestation. All feelings that have names are of the past and quite possibly lost all their creative ability to truly respond and are in fact reactions and are therefore not a spontaneous expression.
Every sentence in the ACOL/ACIM has the ability to divinely respond in a feeling way or generate the New if reader takes a moment to step back and let it lead the way. When it does the inner fireworks begin and what is read becomes visible via expression and inner movement. This inner moment is what life is. I love it. Genuine upward flowing resurrection even with a feeling that even seems negative. Maybe one day I will be able to translate it to ACOL’s jargon.